All posts by Spiritual Hot Chocolate

Author, Speaker, Transformational and Heart Centered Life Coaching

The Guest House



This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Jelaluddin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks







Accepting Others As They Are

Accepting Others As They Are


Being a life coach has served in many ways but not always in times when stepping back and holding space for others could have served a much deeper and profound purpose. Not needing to “fix” it or direct in some way.  Simply and openly holding a kind and loving space.
This has now become part of my coaching practice. 

Acceptance of others is one of the great lessons on this journey.
It Empowers us, Frees us, Lightens us and in turn radiates out inviting and evoking the same in others. 

So many of us say we’re loving unconditionally, but are we really?
Are we holding the space for others to have their own journey, their own experiences, without feeling the need to give our opinion of what WE think they should change based on our beliefs and rule systems?

I humbly admit it, I’ve said that I loved unconditionally. But honestly, at times, I haven’t.
I’ve had expectations, especially in intimate relationships, and had ideas of what I think others should do, say or be.
Looking back, I can clearly see that there were times I disempowered others by trying to change things for them rather then Inspire, Encourage, Empower and just Love them.
Being there to believe in them, have faith and trust that they’re on their own path.  

When you catch yourself wanting to “help” someone by giving them your opinion, advice or wanting to change things for them, STOP, take a deep breath and bring the focus back to you and why you think you need to change those around you.  It’s no longer about them, it’s a reflection of you.  

Let it go.. 

Be in relationship with yourself. Put your focus on your happiness first.

Let go of the attachment, idea or belief that isn’t serving you.. Not the person, it’s never about them.

Your needing for others to change, your uncomfortability, is only in the attachment that others should somehow be anything other then they are.

Others don’t have to do everything you do or live the way you live.  It’s all a choice and we all have our own paths to follow.

Remember, your version of happiness isn’t the same as theirs.

When we learn true acceptance, not only do we get to give Acceptance but we get to receive it too. 
True acceptance always starts with self first.  All parts we accept and appreciate in ourselves will be the same parts we accept and appreciate in others.

Spiritual Hot Chocolate


Make no mistake about it – Enlightenment is a destructive process.

Make no mistake about it – Enlightenment is a destructive process.
It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier.  Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth.
It’s the seeing through the facade of pretense.  It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.

~ Adyashanti

BEing - in - Life

The journey into Consciousness can be absolutely frightening at times!
Sometimes you wonder if you’ve gone completely crazy and, I’m sure, others around you wonder the same.
But what others think no longer matters, you’re on a unique and powerful quest to Live in YOUR Truth. 

There will come times when it looks so dark that you don’t know if you’ll ever come out of the darkness..

Then, there’s a crack..
And the light starts to drip in a little at a time.
More and more, until your heart is so wide open that you think it’s going to burst from the amount of love that you feel and want to share with the world.

You see the Truth of your existence and why you’re here. You touch God, the Universe, the deepest parts of your heart.
You have never felt so much love!…
Then, the clouds start to roll in again and you think, oh God, not again! You do everything in your power to resist going into the dark..You listen to all the things that make you feel good.  You distract yourself.  You pretend it’s not happening.  You pray…
Nothing helps.. except, to be with what is, accept and surrender.

This time, it doesn’t last quite as long and the attachment to things, people, drama and emotions slowly slip away. You feel a sense of non attachment and peace.. And once again the light and love starts to seep into every ounce of your being and existence.
You are home once again.

Eventually, there comes a clarity and understand that the only way to get to acceptance, gratitude and surrender is to BE present in this very moment.  There is much to see, hear, learn, and feel.. right here, right now.

THIS is where your Truth lies..