Love Without Rules

Love Without Rules


What if the love the we share with that special person really has nothing to do with them?
What if we are just looking for the right setup, love rules, trust and circumstances to express the love that is already inside our hearts?
What if we threw caution to the wind, let go of the rules and just loved that way all the time? No reason, no fear and just let it all hang out…

I’ve thought about and asked these questions a few times in my life.
I’ve realized that it doesn’t matter who I choose and whether I think the circumstance are “right” to be vulnerable and share my love.  It takes courage and a longing for something deeper to love beyond our own rules, control and expectations.

When we put our expectations on others to act and react the way we would, we take away the possibility of ever experiencing true and authentic love.  Loving isn’t about trying to mould another to fit our image of who and how we think they should be. Love is about coming from that place that is never unwavering by another. A place that is and has always been inside of us. A place we can access anytime, anywhere and whenever we choose to connect with it.
There’s no ego, no rules, no expectations, just vulnerability and authentic love, compassion, kindness and nurturing for ourselves and others.

Find, remind yourself, come back to or let go of whatever you have to so that your beautiful heart is felt by anyone who crosses your path. That love is not meant to be shared with only one or a few, it’s meant to be shared with the whole world.

At the end of the day it’s really about who you CHOOSE to share your love with and that it’s not something that is only reserved for that one man or woman that meet all your rules of love. You can love anyone that deeply no matter who they are.

Don’t wait for the perfect person or circumstances to share your love. Choose to love because that is your true nature and what has always been inside of you.



7 Ways To Clear Emotional Charges

7 Ways To Clear Emotional Charges

We all have times in our lives where we feel frustrated, angry, anxious or hurt and a lot of times we don’t know what to do with these emotions or how to let them go.  We have created a society where emotions are pushed down or we pretend that everything’s ok.  This doesn’t serve anyone and can create so much dis-ease in our bodies and dis-harmony in our relationships. There’s not a whole lot of space for growth or deep healing for ourselves or our planet when we avoid what’s coming up to be healed.

So, How do we let them go and allow them to be transformed into something that opens us rather then using them to close us down, push away from others or blame the outside world? How can we transform them into a beautiful surrender and healing?

Here are a few things I’ve done that have really helped me on my own healing journey.
Know that sometimes what works one day may not work the next and it is up to each of us to find the processes that work best to help us transform emotions into deeper levels of healing and consciousness.

1. Move your body:


Move that energy!!!
Get out for a walk or jog. Moving your body is an awesome way to shake out the tension and start transforming the energy. Not to mention that exercise releases endorphins, which is one of the brains feel good drugs.

2. Break or Burn:


A few times I’ve gone to the dollar store, bought plates and smashed them. I take a permanent marker and write what is coming up for me.. Maybe you’re mad at something that happened that day, maybe it’s something from the past that’s coming up to let go or you’ve been hurt by something someone said or did.  Write it on the plate and go smash it.  It feels so Amazing to get it out and helps relieve the tension!! Just make sure to clean up the mess 😉

Another great way to write and get it out, that is a little less messy, is to write what you’re feeling on a piece of paper and burn it.  As it burns image that it is going out to the universe to be taken care of and you no longer have to worry about it or carry it around with you.

3. Call A Friend:


Call a friend that you feel understands you and ask them to just hold a space of healing and listening for you.  Ask them to give you 5 minutes to rant about whatever it is that’s bothering you.  We all need someone that gets it and just lets us get it out so we can fill back up on the good stuff. Make sure that the 5 minutes is timed so your friend doesn’t have to listen to you go on and on. Once you’re 5 minutes is up, find a solution or just be done with it and let it go.

4. Laugh:


Go watch a funny movie, listen to a comedian, do things that make you feel like a kid again or connect with friends that make you laugh.  Laughing is one of the greatest medicines and can change anyones state from grumpy to happy in seconds.

5. Dance:


Put your favorite music on and dance your booty off!
Music has a magical way of lifting up our spirits.  Throw your arms around, shake your hips, sing and have fun! Maybe even work up a sweat.

6. Make Some Noise:


Allow yourself to make whatever noise is connected to the feeling(s).  Maybe they are high pitched or grunts or even sound like some weird animal call. This one is especially great if you feel you haven’t been heard or have something that you need to say.  It will help open up and free your throat chakra.

7. Meditate:


When you feel emotions come up take time to be still and sit with them. If you need to cry then do it and clear it out.
The more you resist and try to forget or push them away, the more you feed it.
Surrender, sit in the fire and allow it to burn away.

Go inside your body and see where the emotion is coming from.
Talk to it!
I know it sounds kind of strange but it helps, a lot.  When you can ask what it wants, why it’s there, and how you can help it transform, you will be amazed at what you hear back. Make it your friend.
When you can sit with whatever comes up, without needing to change it, it will transform. It will turn into a space for healing, insights and bring peace to your heart and mind.

Most of us allow the outside world to affect us and we quickly get caught up in it. It doesn’t have to be that way. Yes, emotions will always come up.. The question is, will you choose to honour and clear them, will you stay caught in them or will you allow them to come into the light to be transformed and healed?

In each of us is the courage to follow our calling and dive into a journey of healing, letting go and transformation. It’s not always the easiest journey but it’s most worth it.

Getting To The Heart Of Manifesting

Getting To The Heart Of Manifesting


Manifestation – it’s on the minds and lips of most everyone today who studies, practices, and has committed to what we call “New Age Thought.”  The SecretThe Power of Now, and even classics such as Peale’s The Power of Positive Thinkingand Hill’s Think and Grow Rich have u-turned many back to the origins of the “you create your own reality” edict, all proclaiming that our thoughts indeed have power to create. Be in the moment, visualize your dream reality and you can make it so.  All of these mantras do have validity, but there is one key ingredient; perhaps the single most influential conduit to consciously creating our reality – the heart.  But how and why is the heart of the human being – the magical rain maker, the instrument that has apparent non-local ability to pull “stuff” out of the ethers and into the 3D world?

First, it behooves us here to have a brief think about the law of attraction (LOA), whereby the proclamation of like attracts like is a fundamental tenet of the universe.  Another idiom – Energy goes where attention flows, and so on.  As Lisa Nichols explains in The Secret that if you open an envelope expecting to get a bill, chances are that is exactly what you’ll find.  Conversely, if you have an expectation (the thought) of receiving a check in the mail – voila, your thought will manifest that long awaited tax refund that was 3 months late.

The Real Secret is:  There is more to the story…

The Secret no doubt served as an important primer, indoctrinating millions into a new (or re-newed) way of contemplating their every thought and moved those toward a proactive routine of abundance creation using picture scrapbooking and visualizing images that can stir up the energy to attract that very object or scenario.

Thoughts are a powerful precursor to creating one’s reality, but if you look at instances in which thoughts, especially those which were redundant, created an outcome that seemed to correspond perfectly to the thought, what was behind it?  The feeling!

Let’s look at that.  Have you ever taken notice of the feeling that comes every time you think of something that you may be anticipating?  Something you are worrying about will bring a feeling of anxiety.  Something that you are looking forward to like a vacation will bring a feeling of excitement.  It’s a physical sensation that corresponds with the thought.  If it’s an authentic thought, you can’t escape the feeling.  Have you ever taken notice of how you feel when you receive news that may be shocking or unexpected?  Your heart will emit a physical vibration, whether it’s a pounding of fear or surprise or a fluttering when you’re around someone that you are attracted to.  How do you feel when you are in absolute gratitude about something that has been given to you that you’ve always wanted or when you are absorbed in sadness from a tear jerker on TV or the grief over a departed loved one?  The heart has a physical sensation that is associated with every emotion that we carry – and that may be the key to how and why realities manifest via the heart.

The Heart Has Intelligence

Most are familiar with the perennial wisdom of James Allen’s “As a Man Thinketh” which was borrowed from the biblical text that says “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”  The intimation with this brief passage is that the heart apparently has some ability tothink and have consciousness.   From this passage we can deduce that “he” will become that which he thinks (feels, emotes) from the heart – his reality, circumstances, lot in life et al.

An interesting study conducted by the Institute of Heartmath ( revealed that from an electromagnetic perspective, the heart carries at least 50 times more energy electrically and 5,000 times more magnetically than that of the brain, making it the single most powerful energy generator in our bodies.  Simply put – this means it has juice!

When you look at the field of possibilities; that which exists in the invisible realm that many have simply called “The Field,” or “The Zero Point Field,” you can reason that somehow our consciousness, that which was born out of this field, is still connected to it, but there must be some sort of conduit or energy string that allows for that connection.  There are numerous accounts throughout history that have anecdotally yielded a curious phenomenon that point to the fact that many of our greatest inventions, artistic creations and even prophecies were gleaned from some connection to this invisible albeit authentic realm.  In nearly every case of these magnanimous manifestations, the experiencer will speak of their being in a state or feeling of focus, bliss and emotional abandon which precipitated a synchronization with the Universe.  Subsequently, the answer to a perplexing mathematical problem would be realized, or a flow of musical inspiration would dance its way onto a sheet of paper, culminating in a grand and complex symphony.  Have you ever noticed how you feel while listening to a powerful symphonic piece, all instruments in perfect symmetry and synchronization?  It’s as if the original emotion that was used to put the pieces of the musical construct in order affected our own electromagnetic field which of course is received chiefly by the heart!

It seems that the heart acts as a transmission antenna of sorts, broadcasting via intense feelings, which strengthens the electromagnetic field and thus broadcasts the thought, intention and visualization into The Field.  The Law of attraction then kicks in whereby the Universe acknowledges this broadcast and boomerangs it back into the physical realm in the form of the manifestation.  This you might call the law of reciprocity. 

The Harmonic Spectrum

In David Sereda’s documentary Quantum Communication, it talks about the importance of coherent or harmonic sequence as it relates to the electromagnetic frequencies that the heart emits.  If you are in a state of fear, anger or sadness the heart will produce an incoherent electromagnetic pattern and thus weaken the transmission of thoughts and feelings into the field, usurping our ability to manifest our positive desires.  However, if one is centered within feelings of unconditional compassion, gratitude and love, the opposite will be true, thus creating a strong and harmonic resonance with this field.  A cooperation then ensues and manifestation is primed to take place within one’s physical reality.

Penney Peirce, author of the book Frequency – The Power of Personal Vibration, talks about the impact that the raising of the earth’s frequency is having on the quickening of manifestations, either consciously or unconsciously.  She said, I think (instant manifestation) is absolutely happening and I think in order to really get it to happen, we have to let go of thinking that things occur through cause and effect.  Time used to be linear and it’s not anymore.  Now it’s spherical; it’s all in the moment.  If you get an idea, it’s in there with you and all you have to do is put attention on it and keep attention on it.  You don’t even have to usein-tention because that’s willpower and willpower doesn’t work.  Soft attention is what brings things in – love brings things in, not force.  When you think of imagination like a little movie that you want to picture yourself in, you get in it and you feel it.”

“Feel it.”  That seems to be the secret key to manifestation of all kinds.  Now there is science that appears to be backing this process.  There is a physics to manifestation and its equation lies within the heart.

So next time you set aside a few precious moments to practice manifesting, get to the heart of the matter – the force of materialization literally lies within!

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